Sunday, January 27, 2019

In Honor of her 4th Birthday: Annalise's Birth Story

Tomorrow, January 28th, is Annalise's 4th birthday. I can't believe my three-nager is all grown up and four now! In honor of my giggly, moody, best-hand-holder in the world, I'm reposting her birth story. I love you to the moon and back, Annalise Elizabeth. You make me crazy and make me laugh single everyday. Happy, happy 4th birthday, Lisey Lou Who! 



Annalise Elizabeth’s Birth Story
By Her Mommy

          In March 2014, I became overwhelmed with the urge to have another baby. I didn’t just experience a little tug at my heart but a true I-can’t-think-of-anything-else desire. While I was at work on March 10th, I texted Clay and told him that I was so overwhelmed with the yearning to have another baby that I felt like I couldn’t breathe. I clarified that I didn’t know if it was my crazy hormones, the Holy Spirit, or the Holy Spirit using my hormones to tell me that we should consider having a fifth child. He suggested that we pray about it and with his suggestion came complete peace for me about this idea that we had never seriously considered before.
          Later when we had a moment free from the general chaos of our home, we thanked God for blessing us with four healthy, happy children and prayed for His direction regarding any addition to our family. We knew that we had a houseful of great kids and that we didn’t need any more. However, Clay and I truly wanted to be in God’s will, and if His future for us included a fifth baby, then we were willing to welcome another little one into our madness.  While we did not actively begin trying to conceive, we prayerfully put away our birth control.
          During the middle of May, I began noticing a few pregnancy signs. Because I have been pregnant so many times, I think I am super sensitive to my body and everything it craves or feels. In the mornings, I would experience a little nausea. I caught myself eating fruit, which I don’t enjoy doing unless I have a bun in the oven. I became excited at the thought of sandwiches, which have always been my number one craving in all my pregnancies. However, I kept these symptoms to myself. It was so early, and I didn’t want to get my hopes up.
          When school was out, Clay and I packed up our herd and headed to Myrtle Beach with both sets of our parents. My pregnancy signs continued, but I still didn’t mention them to Clay. On one of our last nights at the beach, our parents sent us off on a date while they kept our kids. We ate dinner outside at a BBQ restaurant where I tried to figure out how to bring up the possibility of being pregnant. It was as if the words were stuck in my throat with super glue. I just couldn’t get them out. After we ate dinner, we went in search of an ice cream parlor. It took us and our GPS several attempts before we could locate one. As Clay pulled into a parking spot, I promptly burst into tears and told him my suspicion. He just hugged me and said, “If you are, it’s not like this is our first time. We know how to do this.” He handled the possibility of another baby much more calmly than I did.

The secret bun in the oven!

          At the end of May, we received God’s clear answer that we would be blessed with another addition. While we weren’t shocked that we were pregnant (yes, we have figured out how this process works), Clay and I were still pretty stunned, stunned enough that we kept our secret from our family for another six weeks.  
          On the 4th of July, our families got together at my mom’s house for burgers, hot dogs, and dessert. Our second born made a very patriotic red, white, and blue cake. As our family sang “Happy Birthday” to America, I pulled a sign from my purse and stuck it in the middle of the cake. It read, “Welcome to Our 5th Little Firecracker, Popping Out February 2015!” To say we shocked our family with this news would be an understatement. However by the end of the evening, everyone was excited and claimed that they knew we weren’t finished having kids.  

Surprise!



            We still waited until the end of the month to go public with our news. Clay and I wanted to let our bosses know that we would need some time off in February before going public with our addition on social media. On July 28th, we posted,

“In March, Clay and I started praying for God’s discernment regarding having anymore children. We received His answer in May and will welcome our fifth blessing in February!
‘As for you, be fruitful and multiply; Populate the earth abundantly and multiply in it.’ Genesis 9:7
Yes, Lord!”

            Finding out we were pregnant again was a definitive moment in our marriage and in our walk with God. Either Clay and I truly believed that God would provide everything we needed for our family, including baby number five, or we didn’t. This pregnancy was our test of faith, and Clay and I were ready and willing to walk together in God’s will, scary and overwhelming though that was.
          At my second OB/GYN appointment, my midwife was annoyed on my behalf that the doctor who had completed my pregnancy confirmation exam had not scheduled a first trimester ultrasound. She asked me if I wanted one and shared that she could justify it with my insurance. Of course, I told her, “Yes!” I love seeing my babies, even when they are tiny. So at 14 weeks and 5 days, I went for an ultrasound with Clay, my mom, and my three youngest kids. We happily watched our number five wiggle and squirm. However, when the technician paused and asked if we wanted to know the gender of our baby, we were completely surprised, as we had assumed we couldn’t find out what our baby was until 20 weeks. I peered at the monitor looking for boy parts, but the ultrasound technician had other news: we were having a girl. Clay and I were shocked and completely ecstatic!

14 Weeks 5 Days

Hip hip hooray for girl #2!

          On the following Sunday afternoon, my family gathered at our house for a gender reveal lunch. In our front yard, Clay and I untied a box decorated with the words “Tutus or ties?” As we opened the box, we released a bundle of pink balloons, sharing our girly news with our family.

Our baby's name was hiding inside!

He or she: what would it be? 
          On October 1st at just over 21 weeks, I started experiencing mild contractions. With each pregnancy, my Braxton Hicks contractions began earlier and earlier, but none had begun before six months. I told Clay what I was feeling, and he got me a big cup of water to drink. I took a bath and then went to lay down. None of my usual tricks stopped the contractions. They weren’t strong or very long, but they continued throughout the night and the next day. I didn’t think I was in labor, but I also didn’t know what was going on with my body to produce these contractions.
The following morning I went to work, thinking the activity might stop the contractions, but when they didn’t, I called my OB/GYN’s office. The nurse I spoke with directed me to go to the Women’s Center, so I left work and headed there with my mother. After a cervical scan and several hours of contraction monitoring, the doctor determined that it was stress induced preterm labor and that I needed three days of bed rest with no more worries about work.

This is what happens when work stresses me out!
          Throughout the rest of my pregnancy, I had several more ultrasounds to make sure that our baby girl was healthy. The ultrasounds shared that baby girl was growing well and was very comfortable in a transverse position. After my third ultrasound at 32 weeks showed her still relaxing sideways, I started Googling safe ways to encourage my baby to shift her position. Many methods sounded crazy, including one that suggested doing handstands in a warm pool. I couldn’t even wrap my mind around how someone as pregnant as I was would begin to get in such a position.


          At my next appointment, I asked my midwife for suggestions, and she said that it was time to play “Breech Games.” I was all in. She recommended drinking something highly caffeinated and then playing music in my lap. My midwife explained that the baby should turn and seek out the music that it would hear, especially if it was all sugared up and well caffeinated.
My midwife’s recommendations sounded so much better than pool headstands, and so when I got home, I eagerly drank one of Clay’s Mountain Dews. While selecting a song to play for my baby, I decided I didn’t want to play her something random. If she could only hear one song, I wanted her to listen to one that was meaningful and shared our faith with her, so I chose Newsboys’ “We Believe.” My baby listened to lyrics that painted the most important picture of our beliefs:

We believe in God the Father.
We believe in Jesus Christ.
We believe in the Holy Spirit
And He’s given us new Life.
We believe in the crucifixion.
We believe that He conquered death.
We believe in the resurrection
And He’s comin’ back again! We believe.

I played this song for my baby multiple times during the next two weeks. I would pull it up on my phone and set my phone in my lap whenever I was driving or lying in bed. When I went back for my next OB/GYN appointment, my midwife shared the good news that my sweet girl had turned and was head down. Hallelujah!
On December 23rd, I went in for my regular bi-weekly appointment, and my midwife said that I was measuring two weeks ahead. I was slightly hopeful that the baby would could come early, but I didn’t obsess over that possibility as I had to get through Christmas and its myriad of details first.
Two weeks flew by, and on January 7th, I saw a different midwife who said I was measuring four weeks ahead and that I was three centimeters dilated, 50 percent effaced, and the baby’s head was in an anterior position. This midwife said that I could go into labor at any moment and gave me multiple suggestions how to get my contractions started. True panic set in. My February 7th due date was a month away, and I still had not bought any diapers.
While waddling to my van, I called Clay and shared the update with him. I also told him that we would NOT be doing anything to prompt labor yet. Then, I called my mom as I drove to her house to pick up my other four kids and had a small melt down with her on the phone. When I arrived, I sat on my mom’s couch in the midst of all my kids’ chaos and texted my hairdresser to request an immediate hair appointment (I couldn’t chance labor pictures with dark roots!) and texted my team at work to keep them in my loop. It was a dramatic afternoon.

Finally nesting and getting ready for the hospital!

Nesting sometimes takes on a crafty form.
On January 12th, I was walking my kindergarten class down the hallway at dismissal, and as I turned a corner, I slipped in a puddle and fell. As I sat in the hallway with my students around me, I was equal parts livid that there was water in the hallway and scared that my fall could have hurt my baby. I pushed myself up, took my class to the buses, and then stomped to the nurse’s office. My school nurse took my blood pressure and checked my heart rate, which she said was high. That news wasn’t surprising as I was boiling mad. I left a voicemail at my OB/GYN’s office and headed to a Leadership Team meeting where I became aware that my typically active baby wasn’t moving and that I was having sporadic contractions.
Growing up, my grandmother regularly told me the story of how her mother fell in the yard while she was pregnant. When my great grandmother later delivered her baby, it was stillborn, having broken its neck in the fall. The image of that baby was one that my grandmother spoke of often, and as I sat in my meeting, that story kept running through my mind.
Thirty long minutes passed before a nurse called from my OB/GYN’s office. She told me to immediately head to the Women’s Center at Cobb Hospital to have myself and the baby checked. In a hurry, I left work and drove myself there. Clay also left his job to meet me while my mom took care of our kids at her house. When I got to the hospital, a bed wasn’t available yet in triage, and I sat in the waiting room overanalyzing every twinge of my belly. Clay arrived shortly before I got a room, but we were called back before he even had time to plug his phone in a charger.
When I got back to my room, I changed into a gown and lay down on the bed. Straightaway, the nurse hooked me up to a fetal monitor, and much to my relief, the sound of my baby’s heartbeat flooded the room. I was monitored for the next five hours and taken for an ultrasound. While Clay and I watched our baby on the screen, the technician explained that my baby and placenta looked well but that my amniotic fluid level was low (a level 9). I was sent home with instructions to follow up with my OB/GYN and to rest.
Three days later, I went for my follow up ultrasound at my OB/GYN’s office. The ultrasound tech said that my amniotic fluid level was now normal (a level 17) and that it can replenish itself when resting appropriately. She also mentioned that the baby was measuring one week ahead of her due date. By this appointment, I was finished listening to my baby’s measurement’s concerning her arrival. I knew she would arrive exactly when God wanted her to and not a moment before!

36 Weeks 5 Days
Despite measuring weeks ahead according to multiple midwives and an ultrasound tech, my pregnancy continued and with it came its typical end-of-third-trimester discomfort. Having been pregnant five times, I realize God’s design in this misery. If He did not make women truly uncomfortable, we would never be eager to experience contractions and to push a human from our bodies. As with my last three pregnancies, I experienced severe heartburn and could not bear to be five minutes late taking my Zantac. My feet swelled, and I had hot flashes that necessitated my running the air conditioner in January no matter how much the rest of my family shivered. When the middle of the night leg cramps hit, I was a sobbing mess and ready to welcome labor.



A week after I fell, I went for my weekly checkup on January 23rd.  My midwife said I was still at 3 centimeters and that the baby and I both were doing well and looked healthy. That day my nesting instinct kicked in, and Clay found me scrubbing the walls of the kitchen late at night. I reminded him that he was supposed to clean the carpet as I had been requesting for a month and that I couldn’t very well bring a newborn home to a house with dirty carpets. While he was sweet and finished cleaning the kitchen walls for me, he still didn’t clean the carpets much to my aggravation.
          At 5:00 AM on January 27th, I started yelling like only a very pregnant (perhaps slightly irrational) woman can do. I kept screeching until Clay woke up and told him that he was uninvited to the birth of his fifth child until he cleaned my carpets. I told him that it would be all his fault that he missed it and that he could explain to his daughter how he missed her birth, because he chose not to clean my carpets.
I was completely furious and went to work and complained about my dirty carpets all day. My poor teammates and para pro listened without judgement as I vented and ranted about how long I had been asking for my carpets to be cleaned. They assured me that they would bail me out of jail if I ended up burying my husband in the backyard over dirty carpets.
          Sixteen hours after I began my carpet tirade, my contractions began. At that same moment, I heard the hum of our carpet cleaner. (God’s timing is everything!) I decided to keep my labor a temporary secret, because I wasn’t about to chance that Clay would stop cleaning my carpets that so desperately needed to be cleaned.
          My contractions continued through the complete cleaning of my carpet and multiple episodes of Call the Midwife, my favorite TV show during this pregnancy. Around midnight, our two year old woke up and walked in our bedroom. She tried to climb in bed with me, but Clay took her back to her bed to lie down with her. After he had been in there with her for half an hour, I texted him and told him that I thought I was in labor. After he managed to sneak out of our toddlers’ room, he crawled into our bed and asked for details.
Since 9:00 PM, I had had continuous contractions but their timing wasn’t in a consistent pattern. While I was fairly sure I was in labor, I wasn’t completely certain and definitely not sure enough to go to the hospital. I knew that if I was in real labor that my contractions would continue no matter what, so I lay down to try to sleep, and Clay did the same.
          Around 4:00 AM, I woke up and decided to take a shower. My contractions continued but were still irregular. I texted my mom and let her know what was going on, and Clay put his parents on notice too. After I showered, did my hair and makeup, and got dressed, I noticed that the frequency of my contractions had decreased, so I lay back down to monitor them, and they picked up again in frequency. At 5:45, I was frustrated with my body and texted my supply teacher to be my sub. Then, I emailed my boss and secretary that I had been up all night and wasn’t coming in. Even if I had been in false labor, I would have been way too cranky to teach a room full of five year olds.
          I fell back asleep for an hour, and when I woke up, I was just emotionally ready to go the hospital. Clay and I got our kids dressed, and at that moment, I decided that we should split up. He took the oldest two boys to their schools and our other two kids to his mom’s. Without a second thought, I drove myself to the hospital after laboring at home for eleven hours. Looking back on that decision, I find it a little reckless that I drove myself, but when you have a lot of kids to transport, having a chauffeur for yourself is a luxury that you cannot always have. Plus, my hospital was only two miles from my house.


          At 8:00 AM, I arrived at the hospital. I grabbed my purse and one of my bags and walked through the hospital’s parking lot and construction zone in the cold. The 31 degree temperature was a welcome relief from all my hot flashes.
I headed upstairs to triage where I was the only patient. I was given a gown, hooked up to a monitor, and given a cervical exam. To my great frustration, I was measuring between three and three plus centimeters. My eleven hours of contractions had done little to change my cervix since my last appointment. At this time, I was 38 weeks and four days pregnant, and my OB/GYN’s policy is that the doctors and midwives will not strip your membranes, break your water, or do any procedure to induce labor until a patient is 39 weeks, unless she is in actively contracting on her own. I was completely frustrated and hungry.
I texted Clay the news as he sat in the parking lot eating Chick-Fil-A for breakfast, having finished dropping everyone off. He was kind enough not to eat in front of his wife who had not eaten since dinner the night before! When he was finished, he came to my triage room where we watched my irregular contractions on the monitor. While I was lying there, I texted my teammates to share where I was. One of them cautiously texted me back and asked, “Did Clay clean the carpet?” I was so happy to be able to text back “YES!”

My irregular contractions

          At 9:40, the nurse checked me again, and I measured the same. My favorite midwife Linda consulted with my nurse and said that she suspected I was in early labor and that I had a choice: I could either go home and probably come back later when labor intensified, or I could walk the floor for the next hour and see if this caused me to dilate further. After all the trouble it took to distribute our four children to three different locations, we chose walking!
          Unfortunately, the shoes I had chosen to wear that morning to the hospital, my tan Sperrys, did not coordinate with my pastel pink gown. Even 38 plus weeks pregnant, I have my fashion standards while in public, so I decided to leave my shoes in my triage room and just walk in my pink socks. From 9:40-10:40, Clay and I walked dozens of laps around the Women’s Center third floor. I waddled with all the fierceness I could muster, because I wanted to meet my baby and was fearful of being sent back home. While we walked, I ate countless cups of ice (Thank goodness we kept walking past an ice machine!), babbled continuously to Clay, and texted with my supply teacher and parents who were on their way to the hospital.
          When the hour of walking was up, Clay and I headed back to my triage room where I removed my filthy socks (Gross!). I expected not to have made any progress, because while walking, my contractions had spaced to ten minutes apart. I hoped for the best but mentally prepared myself to receive discharge papers. When my midwife checked me a few minutes later, she paused and turned to my nurse. She told her to check me too and then tell her what she thought. My nurse obliged, and when she said that she measured me at 5 centimeters, my midwife broke into a huge smile and said she did too. I was deemed to be in active labor; I was staying!
            Immediately, we texted all our family to let them know we weren’t leaving the hospital until Brooks number five made her debut. Our baby girl was officially on her way! The moment was a little surreal, knowing that I’d meet my new daughter within hours.
Although I had just spent the last 60 minutes lapping the third floor of the Women’s Center, I was required to be transported to a labor and delivery room via wheelchair. My triage nurse pushed me to my new room while Clay carried my purse and bag. Even after I crawled in the big bed of my L&D room with the empty baby bassinet nearby, I was still a little nervous that some medical personnel would notice that my contractions were still irregular and far apart and would send me home. But once my new nurse, Dayna, introduced herself, hooked me up to a fetal monitor, and gave me an IV, I knew that I wasn’t going anywhere until my baby arrived. At that time, my nurse also assured me that my epidural had been ordered, and I was incredibly relieved to know that I wasn’t going to have another accidental natural delivery, like I had had with baby number two.

Ready for baby!

            As I settled into my new room, my contractions continued, still fairly mild and inconsistent. Clay went downstairs to get the rest of my bags, and my parents arrived, both thrilled that they would have five grandchildren by nighttime. Shortly after their arrival and Clay’s return, the anesthesiologist entered my room at 12:20 with a large rolling tray of equipment. Because I could only have one support person with me during my epidural placement, my parents went to the waiting room to get coffee and to update our family on the baby.
         Anyone who has ever discussed childbirth with me knows I am completely team epidural, especially after having delivered a baby without any medication. However, the more epidurals that I receive, the more I dread the five minutes that it takes to have one inserted in my spine. With baby number five, I feared those few moments more than any other part of my pregnancy and had been anxious about it since I first discovered I was pregnant. 
          As was our routine, I sat up on the edge of my hospital bed and curled my big belly as best I could over a pillow, holding Clay’s hands with a white knuckle grip. I was trying not to panic as I knew the brief pain of an epidural is nothing compared to hours of unmedicated contractions and a natural delivery. Before he began, the anesthesiologist asked me what procedure I was about to have done, and I told him, “You are about to electrocute me and give me an epidural.” He found my answer funny, as well as an accurate description.
          As the anesthesiologist worked quietly behind me to numb the lower half of my body, I clutched Clay’s hands and cursed at him, swearing that he was not going to put me in this position again. The very idea of having another epidural instilled enough fear in me that I fiercely vowed that we would never have any more children. Observing that my heartrate had increased to 124, my nurse asked me if I was ok. Even my body knew that this epidural was rapidly unnerving me and so was the vision of ever having to repeat this process.
          After two attempts, the anesthesiologist successfully placed my epidural, and he and Clay lay me down to rest and allow the medication to take effect. At this time, my parents returned, concerned that the epidural had taken longer than usual. They stood bedside my bed, suspecting that something was wrong. Initially, I felt normal, but within minutes, I was overwhelmed by the familiar sensation of my blood pressure plummeting. Experiencing sudden weakness, I voiced my concern to my nurse, who verified that my blood pressure had dropped to 60/30. I had warned her earlier that my blood pressure had severely declined when I got my epidurals with babies three and four, so she had prepared for that possibility.
Conferring with the anesthesiologist, my nurse administered a bolus of ephedrine and watched my monitors closely. My blood pressure continued to fall and the shakes settled in, but despite those effects, I craved ice and demanded cups of it. Somehow eating the ice grounded me in the midst of the well-controlled panic in the room. While I continued to feed myself ice with shaky hands, my anesthesiologist and nurse determined a second bolus of ephedrine was necessary, as my blood pressure was not improving. With the second bolus, my blood pressure finally stabilized, and I soon felt well enough to request a hair brush, mirror, and chapstick. This mama doesn't let herself go, even in the hospital.
            After my epidural drama had dwindled down, I settled into bed to relax and enjoy the rest of my labor. Clay and I took pictures and posted labor updates on social media. At 1:40, my nurse checked my progress and determined me to be dilated to six centimeters and 60% effaced. My midwife Linda suggested breaking my water to speed along my labor, and I agreed, since my epidural was working well. I couldn’t feel any pain, but I was still able to move my legs with only minimal support.


My parents: My cheerleaders

With what looked like a knitting needle, my midwife broke my bag of waters, and amniotic fluid spilled off the bed and puddled in the floor. My waters also drenched my midwife, who laughed that she was going to have to change her scrubs before my baby’s delivery. Midwifery is not for the faint of heart.
            At 2:40, I was assessed again and informed that I was between six and seven centimeters and 70% effaced. I requested a pillow to apply a technique that I learned during labor with baby number four. With help from Clay, I rolled to my left side and placed a pillow between my knees, allowing lots of room for the baby to descend.
            Less than hour later at 3:30, my progress was checked and my nurse shared that I was between eight and nine centimeters. Clearly, the pillow trick was working, and I told Clay that he better call his mama and tell her to get to the hospital fast. I didn’t want her to miss the birth of the grandbaby we were naming in her honor, and I was predicting that she would make her debut by 6:00.
          While Clay was talking to his mother, I started feeling a contraction, not around my stomach but in my birth canal. After all the trouble of getting my epidural, it suddenly stopped working when I dilated to eight, just like it had with my last two labors. I told my mom what was happening and to call the nurse. I am not a wimp; I have survived a natural delivery. But when I already have an epidural in place, I expect it to work, and another pain-filled delivery was not an acceptable option for this veteran mama.
            My nurse rushed in my room and questioned what I was feeling. She prompted me to use my personal epidural button for an extra dose of medication. I told her that I could fill the medicine flush down my spine but that it was only numbing my abdomen. I could feel my baby’s head descending in the birth canal, as well as painful contractions there. She placed a call to the anesthesiologist, and while she did, I assured her that I know how to push a baby out when completely numb.


          While we waited for the doctor, my contractions intensified, and Clay’s mother arrived. She entered my room as I was in the midst of a contraction, holding on to my bed’s railing with a death grip and trying not to curse at anyone. Her quick arrival was impressive, and I was grateful that she would see the birth of her granddaughter.
          At 4:30, I was checked again by my nurse who deemed me to be ten centimeters. At the same time, the new on-call anesthesiologist entered my crowded room, and I convinced her and my midwife that I needed a bolus of pain medication in my epidural. Again, I promised and assured everyone that I could push, no matter how numb my body was. Thankfully, the anesthesiologist and my midwife believed me and more pain medication was administered. Within five minutes, my pain disappeared, and I felt back in control of my delivery.


          After giving me a few private minutes to allow the pain medication to take effect, my midwife told me that she was ready whenever I was. She said that she was playing “Trivia Crack” with the other nurses who were waiting on me. I told her that I wanted ten more minutes. I believe she thought I was fearful of the pain recurring, but I really just wanted to touch up my concealer and lip gloss before pushing. I know how those birthing pictures are around forever!
          When my midwife came back to check on me, I told her that I could really feel the baby far down in my birth canal, not in a painful way but as in a sensation of feeling full. Immediately, she had the nurses set up my room for delivery. My dad headed to the waiting room to sit with my brother and oldest son who had just arrived. Clay’s mother got my camera ready to take pictures, while my mother turned on and set up her video camera at the top of my bed. As with my previous four deliveries, Clay took his usual position on my left side.
          My midwife broke down my bed and set up the stirrups. At this point, my shaking was terrible, and she instructed me to take slow, deep breaths to help it stop. As she prepared, she commented, “You were determined not to feel a thing!” to which I replied, “I really wanted my money’s worth out of the epidural.” After placing my completely numb legs in the stirrups, my midwife positioned herself between them and shared that my baby had a lot of dark hair. I couldn’t believe that my baby was already so far down that her hair could be seen without my pushing at all.
At 5:13, I started pushing as my midwife directed, with Clay and his mother on my left and my mother on my right. When my contraction was over, the nurse covered my belly with a pink and blue receiving blanket, and my midwife quickly put on her paper scrubs. I’m no rookie; I knew that meant the baby would be here soon. With the next contraction, I pushed again and my life forever changed. At 5:17 PM after 20 hours of labor, Annalise Elizabeth was born into our family, just as God planned. She weighed 8 pounds 1 ounce and measured 19 inches long.
My midwife caught Annalise as she made her entrance into our world and gently placed her on my chest. As I cried and stared at my baby’s face, I couldn’t believe she was finally here. What a blessing I now held in my arms after nine months of anticipation.


Jeremiah 1:5 reveals, “I knew you before I formed you in your mother's womb.” I’m so grateful that God picked this sweet baby for our family, knowing long before we did that Annalise would be a perfect fit. Through her birth, Clay and I have an amazing testimony of our faith to share. We know that God will give us everything we need to train up this child that we did not plan to have and are eager to see how He uses our daughter to tell His story and bring others to Him. 



 












Monday, January 21, 2019

Charlie B.'s Birth Story

I know this post is well past due. However, finding the time to write Charlie's birth story has proven very difficult while working full time and raising SIX kids. But better late than never, it's finally finished!


Charlie’s Birth Story
By His Mommy

Growing up, I always envisioned having three children. It was the perfect number to me. Even when we were dating in college, Clay and I joked about someday having three bald headed babies of our own, although he said he would be content to just have one (HA!). When we got married on a ridiculously rainy night in September of 2000, Clay and I had no intentions of having an enormous family of six. No way as we stood in front of hundreds of people saying our vows, just babies ourselves at 21 and 22, were we considering a half dozen kids! In hindsight, this ignorance about our future was clearly part of God’s meticulous plan. Otherwise, we both might never have signed up for a life of unrelenting chaos together.

My note to Clay from 1999. 

After a decade of marriage, Clay was sold on the idea of three children and that’s exactly how many boys we had by 2011. But then 19 months after boy number three was born came our girly surprise number four, and two years later sweet number five made her debut. We were thrilled, very crazy, and busy enough that we didn’t have any extra time to consider adding to our herd.
   

Our Herd in 2016
In October of 2016, Clay and I traveled to Cancun. Without any kids to interrupt our conversations or to distract us, we sat on the beach and seriously talked about making a final decision concerning any future kids. We decided that when we got home that Clay would schedule a vasectomy. That was our sincere plan (we meant it for real this time!), but life got hectic when we got back from our vacation, and the appointment reminder collected dust on Clay’s to-do list.

Kidless in Cancun
After our trip, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s flew by with all the family traditions and madness those holidays include. In January, we had a mid-month ER visit for Amelia-Grace, and I was just cautious enough not to follow her back into the room while she received a chest x-ray. 99% unconcerned that I could be preggo again, I nevertheless stood outside in the hospital hallway and made the nurses promise not to tell my mother that there was any chance whatsoever that I might be pregnant. They just laughed and said it wasn’t their story to tell.

By the end of January, I noticed that I was starting to feel a little off with just a hint of nausea during the first half of the day. Coffee, my favorite morning necessity, wasn’t smelling delicious to me anymore, and soon enough my period was missing. My veteran instinct told me that I was pregnant, but my mind yelled, “NO WAY! That boy did NOT do it again.”

In February, this mama of five began to cycle through all the stages of grief. First, total denial. Then, anger, which actually lasted for several weeks. Sitting at work, just stewing in my feelings, I rapid fired texts to Clay in the middle of the day about my pregnancy suspicions. But because he’s known me since he was 15 years old, he’s accustomed to my out-of-nowhere wrath and was wise enough not to be anything but completely supportive.

Those late days turned into weeks, and those weeks turned into two months before I grudgingly caved and took a pregnancy test. Staring at those two life-changing, pink lines, I finally arrived at the stage of acceptance. If God thought Clay and I should have six kids, I was not going to argue with Him. Anyone who knows us understands that we are both fiercely pro-life, including when our babies aren’t planned and our bank account isn’t worth boasting about. Once again, we were walking in faith that God would take care of our huge and expanding family.

I made a pregnancy confirmation appointment, and going back to my OB/GYN’s office was like a family reunion with the midwives and nurses I had come to know and love over the last sixteen years. So many sincere congratulations! After catching up and then listening to my baby’s heartbeat, I was now incredibly excited about number six. There really was a baby in my belly, and I was back with my favorite people to help me through the rest of my pregnancy! As I was checking out and making my next appointment, I ran into my most adored midwife, Linda, who had delivered Annalise. She hugged and congratulated me, and I joked that I really wanted to sign her up to deliver number six. My fingers were crossed that she would!

I intended to keep our unexpected number six a secret from everyone for as long as I could, just to avoid the judgement and opinions of people who don’t embrace our big family life style. We’ve learned that the bigger our family gets the more freely people share their views about it. But I was so first trimester miserable, and like with every other pregnancy, my internal monologue quickly disappeared. Out came the fact that I was pregnant to my besties, my co-workers, and to my boss when she passed me in the hall while I was in the midst of a horrible, can’t-fan-myself-fast-enough hot flash.

I’m always most nervous to tell my parents. Every day my friends and co-workers would harass me and ask if I had told my parents yet. One even spotted me at our favorite BBQ restaurant and messaged me, asking if I had broken the news yet while I was at the table with my whole family. I considered sending my parents and in-laws flowers with an announcement attached. I even went so far as to price flowers online, but it didn’t feel right, so I chickened out.

On an early Saturday morning in April, I was over at my parents’ house with my three littles. When I got up off the couch, my father eyed me suspiciously. I had worked hard to conceal my 14 weeks pregnant belly that had started to grow within what felt like ten minutes after conception. However, I had clearly reached my limit of fooling people. My father asked, “Are you late?” To which I replied, “NO…I’m pregnant!”  He yelled to my mother in the kitchen that she was right. My mother burst into a smile and was equal parts “I knew it!” and “I’m so excited!”

Immediately, my mom was ready to tell the three little kids who were with me, and of course, Collin, Amelia-Grace, and Annalise were thrilled when she told them. My kids always love a new addition to the family. That evening, my mom took pictures of Clay and me in her backyard, holding a onesie that said, “Guess what?” Afterwards we went back inside where our two oldest sons, McLain and Keaton, were hanging out. Clay tossed the onesie to them as our way of spreading the news. After the initial shock, they were really excited as well. Later that night, we showed the pictures we had taken to Clay’s mom, and she immediately called his dad and sisters. By baby number six, none of the adults in our family are really shocked anymore.
You're not really pregnant until you're social media official. 
On April 11th, we went social media public, and our fans went wild! I posted: Clay Brooks and I thought that God had called us to raise up 5 children for Him. However, we've learned that He has different plans and that our 6th little blessing will be here in October! #WeCantBelieveItEither #YesWeKnowWhatCausesThis  #CheaperByTheHalfDozen

No more denial. No more secrets. Brooks baby number six was officially on its way and due to arrive October 12th!

In June, I went to my OB/GYN with Clay and my mother. Lying on the exam bed, I watched my baby bounce and move on the monitor. I saw ten perfect fingers, ten tiny toes, a healthy heart, and functioning kidneys, but as the ultrasound tech determined the baby’s sex, I looked away and had Clay and my mom do the same. I didn’t want to know what I was having! Even though at the end of the appointment I was given a DVD with the baby’s gender confirmation on it, I left that DVD unopened on my bedside table until well after the baby’s delivery. We truly wanted to be surprised!

17 Weeks 5 Days
Because this was our sixth baby, we already had everything we could possibly need for a boy OR a girl. Overalls? Check. Enormous bows? Check. Bow ties? Check. Dresses and coordinating bloomers? Check and check. I don’t know why the desire to wait to find out what we were having struck us so strong this time around, but it was exactly what we both wanted, and we had all the baby supplies to roll with this urge. In the third trimester, I had a blue and white striped hat monogrammed with the name Charlie and a pink hat with a white bow monogrammed with Adeline on it. We were completely ready for whomever decided to join our family!

Hats for Charlie or Adeline!

I spent the summer in any pool that I could find: my Mom’s, Tolleson, or White Water. I was swollen and hot and wanted to stay submerged in water as much as possible. In August, I started my new position at work as a phonics coach/EIP kindergarten teacher, which was a perfect fit for this mama, because it required less time on my feet. I was able to prop my enormously swollen feet up or run to our school nurse to have my blood pressure checked as needed.
Cankles
Trying to stay cool at the pool!

On September 10th, Hurricane Irma made its way to the southeast and with it came a big drop in barometric pressure that was felt across Georgia. That day I nested with the girls and Clay. We went to Starbucks and then to Target to buy some pacifiers and Halloween pajamas with a pumpkin hat for the baby. The girls were so excited and continuously asking when the baby was coming. Around 6:45 that evening, contractions started, and after two hours, I started to grow mildly concerned as I was only 35 weeks. At 9:00, I headed to take a bubble bath and stayed in the tub for an hour until my contractions finally spaced out and stopped. I later read about how barometric pressure can impact a pregnant woman. I’m a believer now!

Shopping for Baby #6!
I headed to my 36 week appointment on September 18th, which was the first of my weekly doctor visits. My midwife checked me and shared that I was 2 cm dilated; 50% effaced. I was a little disappointed that I was not more dilated than that, but I also recognized that I had another month before the baby was due.

On October 4th, I went to my weekly scheduled appointment and was surprisingly checked again. Typically, the practice I go to only checks mothers at 36 and 40 weeks unless there is a specific need, because they want to limit the potential for infection. The midwife stated that I was 3 cm dilated; 50% effaced, and I was grateful to know that I had made a little progress since my visit two weeks earlier. That night I nested and cleaned the house, even though it was already clean. I packed and repacked my hospital bags, making sure that I had everything I needed for either Charlie or Adeline. Perhaps I should have paid closer to my intuition as I packed only two girl outfits but four little boy ensembles!

Three days later Clay and I dressed up and went to the Marietta Country Club for dinner with his co-workers to celebrate a successful quarter for their company. We knew that night was likely our last opportunity to go out together before the baby arrived, and our suspicion proved to be correct. 

Last outing before baby #6! 
At 3:10 AM on Monday, October 9th, I started having contractions, which started to get noticeably serious by 4:15. A shower or a bath is my standard test to determine if my labor is the real deal, so I headed to the shower at 5:00. My contractions diminished and completely stopped by the time I finished showering, and I was LIVID. I was sleep deprived, absurdly enormous, swollen from head to toe, riddled with heart burn, and entirely too cranky to be around people. This mama was DONE.

To console myself, I stopped at McDonalds and got a large chocolate McFrappe on the way to work. Eating my feelings was the only way I could survive the day. I fussed and complained about my middle of the night contractions to my co-workers during all of breakfast duty (bless their hearts to have to listen to me vent) and then headed to my assistant principal’s office to borrow her big blue yoga ball. I bounced on it off and on for the rest of the day in a desperate attempt to evict number six!

A very swollen and desperate mama!
Everything was ready at work and home!
Two days later, on Wednesday the 11th, I was still very pregnant at 39 weeks and 6 days.  My weekly appointment was at 2:00, and that day I was introduced to the practice’s newest midwife, Dayna. As she was talking and telling me that she would schedule me for an induction on Friday at 8:00 AM, I pulled up my phone and scrolled through my Facebook albums. I pulled up a picture of Annalise’s delivery and showed it to the midwife, asking “Is this you?” It actually was. We laughed, because she had been my labor and delivery nurse with my fifth baby.

As the midwife was typing an order for my induction, I asked her if she would strip my membranes since I was only one day from my due date. She said, “Absolutely!” I’ve never been induced and preferred not to be if there was a less invasive way to get the labor party started. First, she checked me and made my day by declaring me a good 4, almost 5 cm dilated and 50% effaced, and then she swept my membranes. My body was getting ready on its own, and with her nudge, she said that it wouldn’t be surprising if I didn’t make it to my induction on Friday.

My favorite midwife, Linda, popped in before I left and told me that I would be in good hands with Dayna on Friday, because she had been her mentor. Dayna also shared that my induction would be her first. I was just relieved to have an end to this pregnancy in sight and grateful to have a plan if I didn’t go into labor on my own in the next 42 hours.

After the appointment, I took a moment in my car to just breathe and collect my thoughts. The end really was so close. My baby would be in my arms in the next couple of days. I called Clay and told him the plan, explaining that he needed to take Friday off from work. I called my mom and texted my bosses that I wasn’t coming back to work, as I wanted one day to pray and prepare myself for this baby. I texted my in-laws, my besties, my team mates, and then my supply teacher, letting her know that she could take over my students tomorrow.

After settling all those logistics, I decided I really needed to eat my feelings and do some retail therapy. Who knew when the next time I could shop alone would be? I got a McChicken sandwich meal from McDonalds (apparently this baby was a huge Mickey D’s fan) and then went to Target, buying the baby a yellow pair of pajamas with adorable giraffe feet. After settling my nerves with junk food and shopping, I picked the little boys up from ASP and then went to my Mom’s to hang out and to get the girls. As Amelia-Grace and I lay on my mom’s couch together and took selfies with her head on my belly, I didn’t realize that would be our last time doing so.

My girl snuggling with her baby!
Such a busy afternoon had worn me out, so we headed home, and I went to bed fairly early, relieved to know that I had a confirmed end for this pregnancy. Two more days tops. Watching TV, I fell asleep just past 9:00 PM, but at 12:15 AM, a contraction woke me up. As I laid there quietly in the dark, more followed, and I became uncomfortable. Like with all my previous labors, I spent the first part of this one wondering, hoping, and praying that these contractions were the real thing. Monday’s contractions had been a tease, and I wasn’t certain that these pains wouldn’t prove to be the same. After an hour passed with my tracking them on a contraction app, I woke up Clay and then texted my mom that I’d been contracting for an hour. I decided to take a shower to see if they stopped or (fingers crossed) kept going. My mom said to let her know!

As I showered, the contractions continued. They weren’t consistent, but they were becoming increasingly longer and stronger. I got out of the shower, and as I dried off, I started suspecting that these contractions were early labor. Still praying that they were, I put on my favorite Mama Bird shirt, applied my makeup, and dried my hair. After making sure that Clay was getting ready too, I stood in my bathroom flat ironing my hair, having to pause as contractions wrapped around my belly. Using my app, I tracked them, verifying that the contractions still weren’t like clockwork. However, they kept coming no matter what I was doing and were lasting at least a minute each. After two hours, I no longer had reason to believe that I was being teased with false labor.

2:35 AM and ready to head to to hospital!
With Keaton’s traumatic, unintentionally natural, four hour labor in my mind, I decided it would be foolish to stay home and risk missing my epidural again. I texted my mom, and Clay texted his parents as he started loading my bags into the van. Then I gathered my purse and our phone chargers. It was definitely time to go to the hospital. These contractions weren’t stopping.

Standing in the middle of my kitchen, I was very much aware how different our life would be next time I stood in it. Bringing a new person into our family very much changes it but in the most amazing way. Clay took one last picture of me and my enormous belly, and we took a selfie, reminding us of when we did that with an old-fashioned, real camera when I was in early labor with our first baby 16 years earlier. 

Last selfie before heading to the hospital to meet #6!
And because that baby was now a practically grown teenager, we left him in charge as we headed to the hospital at 2:40 AM. We later found out McLain had no memory of being woken up by his father or being told to listen out for his brothers and his sisters until his grandparents arrived. Thankfully, he and all his siblings didn’t stir as it was the middle of the night.

Clay drove us to the hospital and dropped me off at entrance of the Women’s Center while he parked the van. As I signed myself into triage, an older lady was standing at the counter fussing to the staff, because she had been asked to leave the labor room. She vented that all she did was ask a nurse about paternity testing for the baby in front of her son’s laboring girlfriend. My jaw almost hit the floor and only my continued contractions kept me from explaining to her how ridiculous she was for asking such a question. Timing is everything!

Clay joined me as I was assigned a triage room. In between contractions, he helped me change into my pink gown and climb up on the bed. My vitals were checked, and I was placed on a contraction monitor, which verified that I indeed was contracting regularly. We could see the continuous peaks and valleys roll across the screen. To my relief, my favorite midwife was on call. At 3:05 AM, Linda checked me and determined I was 5 cm. This was real labor, and she said that I wasn’t going anywhere until after my baby arrived.

As I laid on my side in the triage bed, Clay sat in the chair next to me, texting and updating our family. My contractions were increasing in intensity and were triggered anytime I shifted my position, so I tried not to move. I was feeling panicky and ready for my epidural. The order for one had been placed, but first I needed my IV and to be moved out of triage. At 3:45, my nurse came in to give me my IV, but just as she was about to start the process, I was hit with a horrible contraction, one strong enough that made it impossible not to curse. My nurse waited for the contraction to pass, quickly placed my IV, helped me into a wheelchair, and then pushed me down the hall to a labor and delivery room.

After I was moved to my L&D room at 4:00 AM, Clay and I settled in, took and posted a quick selfie, and turned the lights low, because it was still the middle of the night. The hospital was unusually quiet. My contractions continued and were bad enough that I couldn’t talk through them anymore, except to curse. Because moving triggered them and I was trying to remain perfectly still, I started having terrible back spasms that were difficult to tell apart from the contractions. I was trying not to freak out, but I was in a miserable amount of pain, very aware of how quickly this labor was getting worse, and well past ready for my epidural.

This mama was hurting and ready for an epidural!
At 4:45, almost two hours after I got to the hospital, my anesthesiologist finally arrived. (Where was he? Coffee break??) I tried to sit up when he walked towards my bed, but rising up immediately caused a back spasm which triggered a fierce contraction. I was trapped in an inescapable hell. As he set up his tools, the anesthesiologist tried to ask me several questions, but I couldn’t focus on his words through the pain. He kept going, even though I was unable to answer. 

Knowing the drill, I managed to get upright and tried to sit entirely still as I curled forward over a pillow and gripped Clay’s hands as the doctor prepped my back for the epidural. I had a brief moment when I was neither having a back spasm nor a contraction, so the doctor was lightning fast as he inserted the needle in my spine. But his quickness felt like he was slamming me in the back with a board while at the same time electrocuting me with hot currents that shot from my back, down my hips, to my thighs. I’ve never yelled out before when I got an epidural. Yet, in that moment there was no restraining myself. I’m sure I sounded crazy, but being in so much pain, I didn’t care what anyone else thought.

After all that agony came sweet relief from the contractions and muscle spasms as the epidural immediately began to take effect. I laid back in the bed, finally relaxing for the first time after four and half hours of relentless contractions. Clay warned both my nurse and the doctor of my history with plummeting blood pressure after receiving an epidural, having dropped to 45/22 with my third baby. As I closed my eyes and was overwhelmed with exhaustion, I could feel my blood pressure dropping but didn’t care at all as long as the pain didn’t return.

Because my nurse and doctor had been warned, they were watching my monitor closely. As my blood pressure almost immediately plunged to 70/something, I was given one bolus of ephedrine in my IV. The doctor instructed my nurse to watch me closely, and if it didn’t rise in a few minutes, that she should administer a second bolus as a shot. The anesthesiologist left, and Clay and the nurse hovered over me, continuously checking my blood pressure. I was aware of what was happening but still feeling bad enough that I didn’t have the mental capacity to worry about my well-being or the baby’s. When my blood pressure did not rise after several minutes passed, the nurse gave me a second bolus of ephedrine in a shot, which left a huge bruise on my hip that I discovered the next day. In hindsight, I’m grateful that I couldn’t feel the shot because of my epidural.
He's gotten really good at taking care of me after all these labors. 
The nurse turned off my overhead light at 5:15, and I laid in the dark with Clay nearby and her quietly attending to me. Just as my blood pressure was normalizing, and I was almost drifting off to sleep, the room echoed with a pop that could be heard through my fetal monitor.  I roused up enough to share that I thought that either I peed myself or that my water had just broken. My nurse checked me and said that my water had indeed broken and that I was also 6 cm. At this point, I gave up trying to sleep and briefly hoped that I would be able to nap at some point after the baby arrived.

After all the contraction, muscle spasm, and epidural drama, I resigned myself to stay awake and was ready for family visitors, finally feeling pain free and back to normal. My parents, who had been anxiously waiting downstairs for quite some time, came in and took pictures with me, excited that their sixth grandbaby was on its way. Alex, my little brother, also popped in and took pictures while making silly jokes. Clay and I took a moment to just hold hands and breathe. It had been a very tough few hours, filled with much more intense pain than either of us had anticipated.

My best cheerleaders!

Little brothers are always great for making you laugh. 

Taking a moment to breathe before delivery. 
Less than an hour later at 6:10, I started feeling contractions in my birth canal but not across my belly. This is not unusual for me as I typically have breakthrough contractions when I reach 7-8 cm. Trying not to panic but also not willing to feel any more pain during this labor, I immediately hit my nurse call button and asked for the anesthesiologist. Hearing my call at the nurse’s station, my midwife Linda stopped by and checked my dilation. She said I was at 10 cm (I had progressed from 6-10 cm in 55 minutes!), but the baby’s head was still high. She was very nonchalant and said that we had time to wait for it to descend and that she would page the anesthesiologist.

At 6:22, a different anesthesiologist arrived and gave me an epidural bolus, and the contractions subsided again. She explained that the reason I could feel the break through contractions was because I was dilating faster than the epidural could keep up with. That made complete sense! I was just grateful that no one tried to convince me to try to labor further without a fully functioning epidural.

Clay texted his mother, and my mom followed his text with a phone call to her, urging her to come to the hospital ASAP. Mimi was at my house, which is only 2.2 miles away from the hospital, with our five kids and my niece and nephew. My mom told her to hurry, so she wouldn’t miss the baby’s birth! Mimi was worried that if she left Pop Pop with all seven grandkids that he would be late to work at 8:00. I assured her that I would have the baby before then!

With my newly topped off epidural, I was thoroughly numb from the waist down and able to rest quietly again. While I waited for my mother-in-law to arrive, I texted my besties, team mates, and bosses that I was at 10 cm. Because I knew we would be taking a lot of pictures soon, I reapplied my lip gloss. My nurse laughed and asked, “Are you really putting on lip gloss right now?” I told her those newborn pics are around forever, and I didn’t want to look a hot mess.  

Mimi got to the hospital at 7:20 and said that the nurse had mentioned someone would need to trade places with her, since my room was already full with Clay, my parents, and my brother. My dad and Alex wished me “Good luck!” and headed to the waiting room while my mom and Clay stayed with me. Mimi sat down in the rocking chair, relieved that she had made it to the hospital with time to spare. My support team was ready.

A very few minutes later my midwife walked in, flipped on the overhead lights, and said it was time to push, even though she hadn’t checked to see if the baby’s head had made its descent. At first, I found that kind of odd, but I later realized her shift was over at 8:00, and she knew how much I wanted her to deliver this baby. Linda was my most adored midwife, because she was a schemer, and she did not disappoint me on this day!

As I was prepped for delivery and my midwife pulled on her paper gown and gloves, I made my only delivery request: I wanted to announce what the baby was upon its arrival. The moment I had been waiting 40 weeks for was finally here, and I wanted to declare whether Charles Clay or Adeline Charlotte had officially joined our herd. Everyone agreed to let me make the announcement as they took their places around me, my mom to my right, Clay and his mother to my left, and my midwife at the foot of my bed.

Having been up almost all night, I was exhausted and more than a little irritable. However, I was also excited and incredibly ready to meet my baby. I recognized that only a handful of pushes were preventing me from meeting him or her. All I could think was “Who am I going to meet today, Charlie or Adeline?”

With direction to start pushing from my midwife, I took a deep breath, pulled back on my completely numb legs, and pushed as hard as I could. My first push was met with encouraging words from Linda. I pushed again and again and again, trying not to grow frustrated that the baby’s head was slow to rotate and descend. Again, my midwife cheered me on and said that she could see the baby and its head of dark hair. Those words were exactly what I needed to hear. After 19 minutes of pushing, I took my deepest breath, tucked my chin into my chest, and pushed with all the strength I had left. At 7:49 AM, a beautiful, crying Brooks number six burst into my world. The midwife held my baby up for me to see and asked me what it was. I shouted, “It’s a boy, and he’s covered in poop!” What a naughty Brooks boy already!

On Thursday, October 12th after seven and a half intense hours of labor, Charles Clay Brooks was born on his due date, weighing 9 lbs 3 oz and measuring 21 ½ inches long. Charlie was huge and precious and immediately stole the hearts of his mommy, daddy, and grandmothers. As I cried and looked into my baby’s sweet, chubby face, I couldn’t believe he was finally here and lying on my chest. A year ago, Clay and I would never have imagined receiving a gift from God as sweet as Charlie, but even just minutes old, we couldn’t imagine our life without him.

When we were dating, Clay and I thought that three was the ideal number of kids. We were so wrong! I’m incredibly grateful that God has shown us that six children is actually the perfect amount of children for us…to fiercely love, to snuggle, to giggle with, to chase, and to raise for Him and His kingdom. Welcome to the Brooks family, Charlie B.! You are a perfect fit.